How do you define when an action is pure or impure?
When it is done out of Love?
By Love I mean when there is no expectation or selfish intention attached to it.
I support someone's cause continuously and they may even feel good within themselves that "this person is there for me".
Sooner or later, I begin to feel slightly disgruntled because of something I should be getting in return for my support. Whether its appreciation, acknowledgement or something bigger, I just want something.
Now, if the motive for my support was purely for the other person's benefit, would it matter so much (or at all) if I get nothing in return for my 'love'?!
Does this mean that even when we would like to believe we are doing something out of love, it may really be more out of the expectation of gain?
I guess the only way in which we can test the purity if our 'love actions' is when they bear no fruit for us and yet we persist in loving.
Hmnnn...when love is functionally selfish!!
Isn't it funny how people know just exactly how to love another when there is something to be gained?!
The guy who wants a girl and knows just the right sort of flowers to buy or will drive her home to Egbeda when he lives in Ikoyi, until he has 'conquered' then the journey becomes all of a sudden, too far.
Or the girl who is docile and submissive to her man up until the magical moment when he says the long-awaited "I do".
If what we practise to be 'Love' is simply a means to a selfish end for us, then let me be the first to inform us all say WAHALA DEY!!!!!
6 years ago