Games Men Play

I recently saw a movie about three guys and the tactics they employed in getting girls laid. One of the guys, played by Mike Ezuoronye, was the fine boy who had an all-round big-boy swag that was entirely fake.


Whenever he opened his mouth to speak, it was all big talk about the oil sector, important people, exotic places, houses, his toys, and all those other topics of conversation that dominate the expensive tables big boys gather around.

The trip about him was that everything that came out of his mouth was a potential architectural award winning lie constructed to get the babe to fling her legs open with great enthusiasm and reverence.
And it worked like smooth music on a stormy day; got them all cosy and more than willing to get warmed in his bed.

The second guy was played by Jim Iyke. Surprisingly, he was a really cool guy, though with a false sense of his own flamboyant elegance, who was trying to get up the ranks in the fraud industry.


He was being mentored by one of the biggest boys in the field, who in the way we saw it, didn’t do a lot more than sit cross-legged in his a-little-too-tastefully furnished living room and smoke a stubby cigar.

Jim Iyke’s character was ambitious, hard-working and had the capacity to convince Barack Obama that he was an angel from God come to tell Barack that his true calling is to be a beggar on Falomo Bridge who is actually a terrorist that would nuke Lagos.

He was that good! He also did well with the babes and was even kind of generous to them. At least the cheques he gave didn’t bounce.

The third guy was a United States deportee who had to endure being broke and eventually, insults from his younger sister as he hustled to go back to the States.
He had a girlfriend who did runs to gather as much money as she could so they could ‘buy’ him a visa, and he would go to the States, settle in, then “send for her”.

He was very grateful to her for using all the money she got from her ‘Uncles’ and ‘Aunties’ in Japan, USA and other parts of the world, to help him. This character was played by Nonso Diobi.

The aim of the movie, judging by it’s title, 'Games Men Play', is to show us the different things men do to impress girls and then inquest them.

It was interesting to see how girls responded when a man’s wealth is perceived. Everything changed; the speech, body language and mood all changed when the expectations attached to the aroma of wealth were aroused.

My knowledge of this comes from my own responses and those of people I’ve been around. Tell me, do men also respond to the perception of wealth in the way women sometimes do? Are you as drawn to the idea of comfort and luxury as I know I can be?

Then why do we unfairly judge Nigerian girls and women, saying that they are all about the money?

Is it bad to want a more comfortable life than what you currently have? Have you ever developed a relationship with anyone, male or female, that you knew had the capacity to facilitate the achievement of your goal?

Most Nigerian females are conditioned to believe that a man is obligated to provide for all their needs, because of the way African societies are structured. If this is a part of our indigenous Nigerian cultures and traditions, then why do we harshly criticize women who just live out these traditions to the fullest?

Why do we label them ‘runs girls’ and do not expect anything of substance from them?
In these same traditional Nigerian cultures, men are allowed to marry more than one wife; it is because of the accept-without-questioning manner with which we embraced foreign religions that men now practice that tradition in secret. Well, sometimes.

However, even though everyone knows it exists, I haven’t seen anyone disregard a man just because he had more than one woman.

If both these practices are borne out of tradition, then why is one celebrated and the other scorned.

Is a woman who desires comfort and takes matters into her own hands by wielding the only power she is aware of a threat to social order?

You tell me.