tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2697760777252937704.post1040665705405354716..comments2023-12-28T09:53:00.626+01:00Comments on TARIERE: Games Men PlayTarierehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02986342279914066015noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2697760777252937704.post-55122229889292247222009-07-17T17:10:19.783+01:002009-07-17T17:10:19.783+01:00Lol @ 'mileage down there'
Very well arti...Lol @ 'mileage down there'<br /><br />Very well articulated Tolu. Well said!!Tarierehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02986342279914066015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2697760777252937704.post-62424969318773017022009-07-17T15:19:53.993+01:002009-07-17T15:19:53.993+01:00men hustle for a more comfortable life just like w...men hustle for a more comfortable life just like women, (work hard, advanced education, start a business, seek greener pastures etc) it is normal and acceptable in the pursuit of happiness.<br /><br />However what the society frowns at are on moral and ethical issues across both sides.(robbery, 419, yahoo yahoo, prostitution, runs, embezzlement, bribe etc) with 'runs girls' the problem is they spin it to look ok. i mean come clean and the society will/might accept u for who u r. why do runs and say to friends, the man is ur boyfriend when clearly he is married and old enough to be your uncle? or say he is ur uncle and u disappear with him for days and during the course of 4 years in uni u have had several several uncles or boyfriends and live a lifestyle that is evidently beyond ur background means! irony is most also have emotional boyfriends along with the other economic boyfriends and some actually are from comfortable homes, why these ones do runs is beyond me...<br /><br />for me it's the spin that makes me frown at it. isnt it better to say in d past i did runs to pay my way thru uni or get myself things my family couldnt provide & see me today. BUT weeks after runs, they are broke! what happened to the loot of last weeks runs? and then all over again. i have friends who do runs i dont judge them, nothing like love, physical attraction anymore i understand, it's all abt the benjamins. fat, thin, tall, short, old, young whatever, just pay me the money. i only imagine the mileage down there!!<br /><br />as per marriage, it is only in the statutes that marriage is nuclear. in some religions or traditions, men are allowed to marry more than one. who made the law & y? i dont know. but the sad thing is that not so many people in statutory marriages know that there is a punishment for marrying more than one wife, a ground for divorce and indeed the second marriage is void under family law or maybe they (women) know and cant be bothered as far as he still provides for them usually due to a lack of independence and this runs mentality of all i need is a man to provide for me. it's funny how women are fighting for liberation and equality in africa but the man providing for their needs is not a fight for them, it's ok. they are, in a marriage or what have u to support men. the word is SUPPORT (contribute emotionally, financially,spiritually, morally etc) not depend on or slave for. think i've said too much...tolunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2697760777252937704.post-36139080710465015312009-07-16T14:51:28.185+01:002009-07-16T14:51:28.185+01:00@Chari: All this talk about men's egos makes m...@Chari: All this talk about men's egos makes me wonder whether anyone else but me know that women also have them. It's not a gender issue but rather a human issue.<br /><br />@Sankofa Onwuka: I truly appreciate your comments especially about your Aunt: we will be surprised at how many Nigerian women choose to live miserable lives daily all for the want of comfort!! People will always play games I've realised, whether in Politics, Business, Marriage and even friendship.Tarierehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02986342279914066015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2697760777252937704.post-40916915839535732782009-07-16T13:25:28.436+01:002009-07-16T13:25:28.436+01:00There is nothing wrong in wanting a better life, b...There is nothing wrong in wanting a better life, but it is the manner in which most Nigerian women go about it that makes them have a reputation as nothing more than glorified prostitutes. Using the cultural angle is valid to some extent but I doubt most of our female ancestors where this cheap and evil that their whole dignity as a woman can be easily compromised all for a better life. Also what make a woman think that she will get that better life. I like nice things like most people, but I DO NOT WORSHIP MONEY OR LOOK FOR THAT IN A PERSON.<br /><br />I have an aunty married to the famous Urhobo brothers whose business empire spans newspapers,hotel,fisheries etc. She was a smart women from a well off home and the way she was and is being treated just because of money and prestige, I often wonder is it worth it.<br /><br />Men having more than one wife or having affairs is not good but its nothing new, and certainly not particular to African culture. In the final analysis I think Nigerian men and women love to play their games that suit both of them.<br />Very tragic and is a reflection on Nigerian society as a whole. :-(<br /><br />Nice blog by the way!!!!!!!!!Sankofa Onwukanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2697760777252937704.post-83361905189833374592009-07-16T12:21:06.065+01:002009-07-16T12:21:06.065+01:00ah yes...the age long question of gender inequalit...ah yes...the age long question of gender inequality...uhmmm...waters I would rather not wade in thank you!<br /><br />Not because I dont support your point but because I feel you on it but because I do so much, I wont quit talkin!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2697760777252937704.post-67531261341862573012009-07-16T12:18:58.356+01:002009-07-16T12:18:58.356+01:00hmmn...Its been scientifically proven that regardl...hmmn...Its been scientifically proven that regardless of who we are we are more favorably disposed [at first] to people who are of higher status [finer, richer...bla bla bla] than us..so in answer yes...we men do get drawn to richer woman...but ofcourse you must factor in the other contingencies...like a man's ego...and such and such...<br /><br />what am I even saying sef? I don lusss...*hiss...ooooo need to read the post againAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com