At my Undisclosed Location on Sunday, something I found extremely remarkable happened.
I consider myself to be a Rock Star, not just because I want to believe that I am, but because I actually truly am!!
I love to dance. I don’t care that some people, like my friend, Toni Tones, think I’m the WORST Dancer Ever, but once that music is on, the Rock star in me unleashes herself.
However, whenever I go to the Clubs and I’m fully in my Rock Star mode, there’s only ONE thing that can make me stop dancing (not even my High heels).
Songs that are Disrespectful or Demeaning toward Women.
No matter how far gone into the music I am, or how SICK the DJ is, I ALWAYS stop dancing whenever those sort of songs come up.
The way I see it, I can’t stop Artistes from producing song lyrics that are demeaning to me, but the only POWER I have, is not to dance to those lyrics that insult my Dignity, Virtue and Honor as a Woman.
Any song that refers to Women as nothing but Tits & Ass, Sexual Objects, or anything that I find even slightly contrary to the way I see myself as a Woman, is a Non-Danceable tune for me.
So at my Undisclosed Location, I was watching a certain girl dance almost the entire time I was there. Why? She was a fantastic dancer! I also like people who freely express themselves as they want, so she definitely had my audience, cos she didn’t give a TOSS who was watching her.
In fact, as I watched her, I was laughing and saying to myself, “I think I’m a Rock Star, this babe is a ROCKAFELLA!!” she had sooo much energy and could move her body amazingly.
All of a sudden, the music changed, and she abruptly stopped dancing. I got immediately curious and walked up to her to ask her why she stopped dancing just like that.
She shocked the heck out of me by telling me it was because she found the song to be Demeaning to her.
I burst out laughing and hugged her like she was my long-lost sister. Then I told her how excited I was, because I had taken that stand on my own, within myself, and meeting her makes me know that I’m not alone.
So we talked about the issue for a little bit, and then the music changed and she continued entertaining me.
Her name is Busola Ogunsanya, and she is my first Comrade in this Movement.
Me & Busola
Ladies, we need to celebrate who we are, and what God has given us. We should not allow our experiences, other people’s expectations and ideals, define who we are.
We are more much more than Sex Objects, Tits & Ass, and objects for men or anyone who is willing, to ‘Make It Rain’ on.
Society, the Media, and the Entertainment Industry, can only piss on us because we bring ourselves LOW to be pissed on.
So Ladies, all I ask today is one thing: if deep inside your heart you feel even a slight inclination that certain lyrics are disrespectful and demeaning to you, DO NOT DANCE.
Imagine being in a Club, and everyone is having a GREAT time, and then a song like “F*#K ME HARD” comes up, and all the Women in that Club, immediately stop dancing, and maybe even take a seat;
If that action happens consistently, trust me, the DJ would NEVER play that song or anything like it again.
My heart broke into pieces at my Undisclosed Location on Sunday, as I watched very young girls dancing to songs like “F*#K Me Hard” with such passion and intensity, grinding to the floor and closing their eyes as the music took over them.
You guys, I was SAD. Look at these girls, how old are they, 16 -20 year olds, and they already believe that EVERYTHING such songs say, is Who they are.
So please Ladies, abeg, let’s take this stand together; DO NOT DANCE.
P.S - Guys you can STAND with Us on this, by not Celebrating such songs as well.
6 years ago