Monday, February 15, 2010

How long does it take a Guy to know if she's 'The One'??

Heeeyyyy, Happy belated Valentine’s Day!!

I wonder if there’s a rating system to determine whether the world actually becomes more loving after Valentine’s Day. Maybe I should start that…you never know it may be my answer to Google or Facebook, and the next thing you know you’d be like “she was just some girl who used talk s**t on some blog with a weird name and now she’s worth like $40billion!!!”

Over a lazy alfresco (outdoor for those of you going ‘HUH??’) dinner of drinks and suya with a close male friend, who was going to ditch me soon to go catch his romantic Valentine’s Day movie (ironically called Valentine’s Day!!) with his date, we reached the life changing conclusion that Valentine is simply Overrated!!

We also got talking about a mutual friend of ours who recently got engaged. He was asking me how long she’s been with her fiancé for and I replied that they’ve only been dating for less than 5months. Actually he proposed to her 3months after they started dating!!

Her experience has even been tagged the ‘3month Anointing’ within us girls!!

The conversation after I revealed that went thus:

Guy friend: “Wow!! 3 months!! That’s short…

Me: “Short ke? The guy is a Bad guy I love him!! He knew exactly what he wanted and he didn’t waste any time locking it down!! It takes a guy about 3months to know whether or not he wants to spend his life with a girl he’s with or not!”

Guy friend: “3months Tari?! It takes less than a month!!

There you have it…from the mouth of one stallion!! But that is just one opinion, what do you think?!


  1. It could take less than a month, it's a function of how much the love birds hang-out with one another...and if there isn't very much hang-out time, it could be more

  2. The first thing is to be clear on what you want in a partner and then when it comes, it would take a very short time to know.

  3. I will say this, if the girl is in the right place and so is the guy, by this i mean not coming out of a bad relationship. After a month of spending ample time together, I feel confident that will be able to discern if i can spend the rest of my life with someone.

  4. i think they know instantly. i dont think it takes months.

  5. T.Peters says...
    A guy who's ready to marry you is like a speeding train ready to crush any doubts in the way to get you. For most men as soon as they meet you they know what they want to do so a man who's still not sure if he wants to settle down with you is either confused or truly "not that into you" so get to steppin and stop waisting time with Mr confused or Mr Non- committment!

    1. T. Peters, thank you!! I just met the most amazing man two weeks ago, and he swears I'm the ONE> just knew it immediately. Its been crazy amazing since and its all so mutual. Ive never had a man pursue me this way and treat me like gold in the process. Everyone says its way too soon for him to know that already. You just gave me hope :-)

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